Sex with a Side of Roasted Carrot Soup w/Coconut Milk (Kosher Connections Link Up, Jan., 2013)

20 Jan

Sex was brought up a lot at work this week. Let me explain. I am a middle school counselor. That’s right. I get paid in nickles and warm fuzzies the big bucks to be emotionally and physically available to middle school-aged children 9 hours a day, 5 days a week (well, I get out early on Friday for Shabbat). It’s not a job I EVER, I repeat, EVER thought I would do much less love but I do love it. I was originally hired at the school as a co-director of student life and then 2 weeks after school started I walked into a meeting I thought was about our kosher food bank program and it turned out to be a “how’d you like to be a school counselor” conversation. I am a trained social worker so it’s not far off. I also love working with youth, which was my concentration in social work school but my focus was in community organizing, not in individual practice (IP). In fact, I distinctly remember somewhat tuning out in the mandatory IP courses thinking, “There’s no way in H*LL I’m ever going to do this.” Ha. Jokes on me. So here I am, a school counselor—–for middle school students. I mean, the apex of awkwardness, ‘drama’, emotions, depression, everything in a child’s developmental life. I have learned so much about young people through this job. Heck, I’ve been asked parenting advice and that was before I had a child. Parents come to me desperate for advice or an explanation as to why their child is behaving the way they are and often I bring up the frontal-lobe/brain development stuff but mostly I tell them that this is normal. Your child is going through a change that is so intense the only ages that match it’s intensity of development is 0-2. It’s amazing the sigh of relief I see when parents hear, “You’re not alone.” Of course, the other side of the job is occasionally recommending continual outside therapy and let me tell you, NO ONE likes the person in the room who is recommending therapy.

Mommy, where do babies come from? Ummmm . . .

Mommy, where do babies come from? Ummmm . . .

So why sex? Well, I run a girls group—-a small group ‘lunch bunch’ of 6th grade girls. Working with girls in helping them feel confident, understood, and healthy is a passion of mine, especially in Miami where the exposure to weight-loss ads, Botox, and the expectation of beauty is so overwhelming I have 6th graders telling me they want to be ‘skinny’ when they grow up. It’s heartbreaking. I had the first two sessions of my two 6th grade girls group this past week and during this time I always ask them what they want to talk/learn about. I get the usual–gossip, cliques, parents, peer pressure, etc. But this time around, someone in both groups said puberty. Last year I ended up teaching ‘unofficial’ sex education when it became very clear that my girls had no idea what their periods are and what happens to their bodies during puberty. I closed the shades, told them that I reserved the right to not answer a question they might ask and then let them ask me any question they ever had about the issue (within reason, of course). It was very “Reading Lolita in Tehran”, except this was “Learning about My Uterus in Jewish Day School” (remember people, its uterUS not uterU). Could I have gotten fired? I’m not sure. But dang it, it’s too important that our girls are educated about their bodies so that they can make educated decisions about what happens to it as they grow up. So now I’m getting permission to officially talk about it in girls group plus I’ve been asked to teach sex ed. in health class. It’s intense but it’s all in a day’s work.

On top of all that sex talk, I was asked to compile a list of resources for a mom who wants to talk about sex with her eleven year-old son but is terrified to do so. And then it dawned on me, ‘Holy shit, I’m gonna have to do this with Siona one day”. And then another thing dawned on me. As a relatively observant Jewish woman, my husband and I practice Taharat Hamishpacha, The Laws of Family Purity, part of which is going to the mikveh every month for a ritual cleansing. One day Siona is going to realize that mom leaves the house once a month all showered, no make up, hair wet, and is gone for about 20 minutes (Gd bless those mikvot that take reservations) and then comes back all hair still wet. She’s going to want to know what’s up with that and eventually I’ll need to be honest about what it is and why mommy does it. It’s kind of a beautiful way to explain the birds and the bees to a child. It certainly beats learning about it from your awkward Math teacher when you’re 10 years-old. I’m still debating whether that was a good thing or a bad thing as in the end, I was terrified of sex for quite a long time. Thanks Mr. H. Maybe that’s why I hate Math so much.

Carrots: Pre-roasting

Carrots: Pre-roasting

This week’s recipe is soup. I’ve started cooking 3-4 dinners/week for a dear friend/co-worker who wants to go semi-Paleo and doesn’t want to cook for herself. It’s such a great opportunity because it challenges me in the kitchen and I get paid. Holler! I was craving roasted carrot soup for myself so went ahead and made it for Dana and then saved some for me. I hope she likes it (and you too)!

Carrots: Post-roast

Carrots: Post-roast

Roasted Carrot Soup with Coconut Milk and Cilantro


8-10 carrots cut in 1/2 in. rounds
Olive oil for drizzle
1 medium onion, chopped
1 tbsp coconut oil
1/2 can coconut milk
4 cloves of garlic, minced
1/2 tbsp ground coriander
4 cups of water or vegetable broth
Sea salt
1 bunch of cilantro


Pre-heat oven to 400 degrees F. Place cut-up carrots spread out on a baking sheet and drizzle with olive oil. Sprinkle with sea salt and pepper and place in oven for about 30 minutes. About 15 minutes into the roasting, coarsely chop onions and mince the garlic. Place a stock pot on the stove with the flame on medium-high heat. Put coconut oil in pot. Let sit for a minute and then add onions. Sauté until clear, about 4-5 minutes. Turn down flame and add minced garlic. Sauté with onions for another minute or so. Add carrots to the mix once they are done (they should be nicely browned and soft). Add the ground coriander. Sauté for another minute. Add the water and bring to a boil. Reduce the water to simmer and let sit, covered, for about 10-15 minutes.

One Big Happy Soup Family

One Big Happy Soup Family

At this point you can either blend in batches in a food processor or, if you’re really good, you have a hand blender and just blend the crap outta it. I LOVE the hand blender. It’s the easiest way to make any soup. Just roast vegetables, add water or broth and then blend. Once it’s smoothly blended, add the coconut milk and stir. This part is up to you. Taste and if you like the consistency, keep it as is. If you want it richer, then add more. Add a bit more sea salt and pepper to your taste. Top with bunch of fresh cilantro and serve.

This soup is delicious. I’m pretty proud of myself for this recipe. I may or may not have high-fived myself after eating.

26 Responses to “Sex with a Side of Roasted Carrot Soup w/Coconut Milk (Kosher Connections Link Up, Jan., 2013)”

  1. This American Bite January 21, 2013 at 5:51 pm #

    I love the way you write, thank you for joining the link up! I have 10lbs of carrots in the fridge and now I know what I am making for dinner tonight.

    • jewhungry January 21, 2013 at 6:00 pm #

      Thank you so much Yosef! It’s truly appreciated. I hope I figured out that link up html hullabaloo 😉

  2. Ali January 21, 2013 at 6:40 pm #

    I had an AMAZING health teacher in the 6th grade who helped set the tone for how I viewed relationships. She was smart, articulate, sex-positive and really stressed how sex shouldn’t be some thing that happens “to you”, but rather something you engage in because it is your choice, and it should always be your choice.

    She also taught that no one should view having sex for the first time as “losing” his or her virginity. You should never feel like you “lose” a part of yourself to someone else. Instead, you “share” an experience with a partner, and if that isn’t what it feels like when you have sex, you might not be ready to be having sex at all. Profound stuff for a 6th grader.

    It is awesome that you could be that teacher for these girls. They are lucky to have you. Kol HaKavod!!

    • jewhungry January 22, 2013 at 6:41 pm #

      Thank you so much for sharing with us. It’s so appreciated 🙂

  3. thejoyofcaitlin January 21, 2013 at 6:43 pm #

    ::going out to get carrots now::

  4. thejoyofcaitlin January 22, 2013 at 9:15 pm #

    What happened to the title!? I have had that song stuck in my head for days now!! lol

    • jewhungry January 23, 2013 at 6:16 pm #

      LOL! I was messing with it to try to figure out the Kosher Connection stuff and it just wouldn’t save the title for some reason but it saved a new title. I don’t know. Oy.

  5. Alessandra (DinnerInVenice) January 23, 2013 at 6:58 am #

    This was a great post, and I enjoyed the recipe too! Must try ASAP!

    • jewhungry January 23, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

      Thank you so much Alessandra. I really appreciate it and your comment. Stop by any time 🙂

  6. Prag January 24, 2013 at 9:39 am #

    What an amazing idea, coconut rules!

  7. ronnievfein January 24, 2013 at 1:38 pm #

    Beautiful post. After heavy duty emotional “work” it’s great to cook isn’t it? Especially something as comforting as soup.

  8. kitchen tested January 24, 2013 at 11:39 pm #

    Love the name of your post 🙂 And I am seriously inspired by your flavor combinations in this soup. Roasting the carrots must add an amazing amount of flavor.

    • jewhungry January 27, 2013 at 7:51 am #

      Thanks so much Melinda. What can I say? I’ve never shied away from controversy 😉

  9. Chanie@BusyInBrooklyn January 26, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

    Welcome to the Kosher Connection Group! You have a great “voice” and I look forward to following you. This soup sounds great!

  10. Sarah Klinkowitz January 26, 2013 at 9:50 pm #

    I’ll take some soup, please! This looks delish!

  11. Victoria (Itsy Bitsy Balebusta) January 26, 2013 at 10:41 pm #

    Fantastic post! You’re incredible for taking that position for such a crucial age group! Excited to try out the recipe, made carrot cake this week and have a ton of carrots left over!

    • jewhungry January 27, 2013 at 7:50 am #

      Thank you Victoria! I truly appreciate it. Let’s arrange a trade—soup for cake!

  12. Dani Klein (@YeahThatsKosher) January 27, 2013 at 3:22 am #

    AHHH Cilantro! You guys are killing me!

    • jewhungry January 27, 2013 at 7:49 am #

      I take it you hate cilantro? If this is the case then you’ll have to avoid about 60% of my recipes 🙂 Sorry!

  13. Melissa {lilmisscakes} January 28, 2013 at 6:16 pm #

    I love soup and I love cilantro! Any excuse to use it is fine by me!

  14. Tamar Genger @joyofkosher January 28, 2013 at 8:55 pm #

    Love the title, great sounding recipe.

  15. Fay Florans July 29, 2013 at 12:57 pm #

    great blog! would love to win!

    • Whitney July 29, 2013 at 1:03 pm #

      Thank you so much Fay! I hope you come back and visit again soon 🙂


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